How do you know when you’re happy? Is it something you feel or is it something you think? Maybe it’s both?
Does your heart tell your head you’re happy or does your head tell your heart you’re happy? Perhaps you’re not even sure what makes you happy.
In our society we have been taught throughout school, college, university and the corporate work space how to think with logic, rationale and fact-based decision making and problem solving. This can be highly effective, but it can often mean we are out of balance.
It’s unlikely that you will make a decision that is purely based on your gut feeling even though somehow you just know it’s right. However, at the other end of the scale we will happily make decisions based purely on logic and fact. But this doesn’t always work out.
When we’re out of balance like this we can become confused, stressed, tired, out of touch, isolated, disconnected and in a place of fear. In this place it is difficult to make any decisions with 100% certainty.
As human beings, we need time to process information and identify how it makes us feel. We live in a very fast paced society – always on the go, always switched on. The faster we go, the further we can get from our emotions and sense of humanity.
But, how do we create balance? How do we get out of institutionalised thinking and back to a greater sense of humanity and in touch with our emotions?
Through my own journey of feeling disconnected, isolated and out of touch with my feelings, my identity and not knowing what made me happy I developed a 5 step process to reconnection, my sense of humanity and happiness. Which for me, is a sense of belonging through unconditional love.
The first step I took was to get outside in nature. I walked every day for at least an hour and started to notice what was around me. I noticed plants, trees, animals, insects that I’d never given the time to see before and I began to notice how much more peaceful and calm I felt.
The next step was to practice yoga. I firstly noticed how incredibly stiff I was! Very quickly though, I started to understand how my mind and body were connecting and how present I could be in the moment – not worrying about what happened yesterday and not stressing about tomorrow. Letting go.
The third step was to start meditation and that’s when I really got out of my head and into my heart. I realised I was starting to feel again and a connection to a higher self led to feeling a sense of belonging. I felt light, happy, energised.
The Fourth stage has been learning about the subconscious mind, how our thoughts create energy (what you think leads to how you feel which leads to how you behave) and how that energy creates our reality. You can read more on my work with energy over on my 'What is Intuitive Coaching?' page.
The fifth step? Repeat steps 1 to 4 regularly! It’s an ongoing process and sometimes it’s really hard! I’m still learning, making mistakes, sometimes I fall back into stress and fear programmes and go back to linear thinking and logic and stop listening to what my heart is saying. Maintaining balance takes work but a greater desire for happiness, freedom, kindness, love, compassion, truth and honesty is far greater than the need to stay in the institutionalised way of thinking, living and behaving just because it feels familiar and therefore ‘safe’.
Do you need to get out of your head and into your heart to find happiness?