What's my purpose in life? How do I know when I'm on the right path?!
I was having one of those worrying weeks most people get from time to time, how am I going to pay the bills this month and how am I going to bring more money in, leading to questions along the lines of ‘am I doing the right thing?!’
As I often do, I went for a walk to work off the stress energy and to clear my head. This can be the time that helpful and rational thoughts start to come in.
I started asking myself "what can I help people with?" which lead to "what do people want?" Everyone’s different, but I find most people are generally looking for more time & money, to be healthy, happy & content. Many are also looking for love – to love themselves, with family, friends, a partner. To feel a sense of belonging, a sense of purpose and fulfilment. I realised it was all those things I was looking for when I left my corporate career and set up Revitalise Coaching.
So, what’s the answer?
Simples! It’s all about connection. Bear with me here, I’m not about to go on about the meaning of life but everything I’ve learned in the last 3 years has ultimately been about connecting, or rather, re-connecting. The longer I spent in the corporate space, the greater my sense of disconnection and not knowing who I was anymore.
As humans, we’ve spent an eternity looking for the answers to our questions:
- What am I doing here?
- What’s my purpose in life, my destiny?
- What makes me happy, what do I want out of life?
- How do I make money & feel fulfilled?
- How do I know I’m on the right path?
People sometimes ask me how I changed my life and how do I make enough money? Or they ask me what made me decide to become a Confidence & Career Coach and how did I know it was the right thing to do? I think the answer is pretty simple now and it is without doubt the most challenging lesson I’ve ever learned.
Call it whatever works for you, but I’ve learned that it’s all about connection. Connection to a higher self, energy, a voice within, the divine, the universe, inner wisdom, unconditional love, spirit, the G-word (?!) – it’s all the same thing.
It’s something that you feel and it’s not tangible or easy to explain which is why many of us find it hard to fathom and access. Michael Neill talks about experiencing feeling through thought – thought as consciousness rather than as intellect. If we switched on to feelings, emotions, thought, consciousness and stopped intellectualising and analysing we’d hear that inner wisdom more clearly I'm sure. That inner wisdom is the one that provides ALL the answers. And it feels really good too!
Have you ever wondered about common sayings like gut feeling and heart over head and where they come from? These notions have been around forever but we’ve got so used to technology and intellect providing all the answers that we’ve forgotten how to recognise and trust our gut feelings. Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve decided to ‘go with your gut’? Has it ever been wrong or let you down? When you’ve ‘gone with your head’, have you ever looked back and thought, "I knew I should’ve listened to my gut."?
We don’t trust our gut instinct anymore and we don’t listen to our heart anymore, we look for the logic, rational, factual and scientific answer. I’m not saying that’s wrong but it’s not the only way either. Basing decisions on gut and heart should be just as acceptable, afterall, it’s what makes us unique as humans.
So, how do we get back in touch with our inner wisdom?
There are many ways and different things work for different people. Spending time outside in nature, running, swimming, meditation, yoga, writing, painting, drawing, praying, gardening, colouring and so on. It’s effectively about switching your head/intellect/ego off so you can connect within.
I’ve done pretty much all of the above to help me get back to connection and I still don’t find it easy but when I’m connected I feel calm, happy, loved, strong, reassured, open, lighter. That’s when all the amazing answers coming flowing in! I’m learning to lead with the heart and trust my gut again. This is what leads me to connection which, in turn, leads me to more time & money, health, happiness & contentment. It’s when I feel fulfilled, have a sense of purpose and know that I’m doing the right thing.
Here’s some recommended reading that helped me re-connect:
The Universe Has Your Back – Gabrielle Bernstein
Choosing Love – Sherianna Boyle
Taming Your Gremlin – Rick Carson
Find Your Happy – Shannon Kaiser
Hungry for More – Mel Wells
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