The Peaceful Leader - Quiet Power, Loud Impact

Gone are the times and a belief system where ‘he who shouts loudest’ is true. The peaceful leader has emerged. Often embodied by women, the peaceful leader is the one who has mastered the ability to listen to the whispers of her soul; of her higher self; wisdom, and act from that foundational place of peace. Trusting, knowing and owning her truth. Without guilt, shame or apology.

Knowledge is no longer power, for the true power has always been held in wisdom and unconditional love. Yet this concept is nothing new. It has though, been suppressed, dismissed and woefully undervalued. Denied for many centuries, lost in the noise and overbearing of a patriarchal system. But like the truth, the divine feminine power will always find a way to the surface. Liberated from her oppression and no longer controlled by fear into silence and acceptance of the way things are, unable to challenge and change them.

Above all, the divine feminine knows, values and reveres the divine masculine in equal balance. The universe, source, divinity, the great mother/father is both feminine and masculine in equal measure. Nature knows this foundational truth and works in harmony in perfect balance. Our ancestors knew this and moreover, recognised they were nature and revered the importance in symbiotic living with all living beings they shared space with. When we are in true balance and harmony we are not in conflict are we? We can see in nature when things are out of balance – diseased trees, fierce weather systems, disappearing butterflies, bees and birds. We see it in ourselves too – cancer, autoimmune diseases, anxiety disorders. It’s staring us in the face everywhere we look – the invitation to find true and sacred balance within.

We've tried fighting and battling with each other and ourselves and learned that the outcome is just more trauma, pain, destruction and division. And the cycle continues. It's a pattern founded on anger, fear, frustration and a lack of love and acceptance. In the energy of frustration or anger is not the space to be making decisions and choices. The intensity of the emotion is an alarm bell and an invitation to awaken to new passion and purpose. The invitation of the emotion is to find stillness within and seek the wisdom and solutions that are held within.

If we are shouting to be heard, perhaps we then deny the strength in the powerful heart’s whisper. Deny the truth. Deny wisdom. Deny ourselves. If we are only in our humanity and denying our wise, truthful soul voice then perhaps we are repeating the pattern and recreating the same war over and over again. As the peaceful leader awakens in us all we can create our new world where both the human and the soul lead together as one, in Oneness. The peaceful leader recognises the opportunity for a great coming together and she is leading the way; blazing the trail. There is no more division or separation in this leader. And to become the truly masterful, peaceful leader the first battle that must end is the one within herself. There are many internal conflicts going on of course. But the starting point is to put down the weapons, put down the shields, take off the armour. In so doing, the wounded feminine heals and takes the first decisive steps toward leading her own life without needing permission, approval or feeling shameful, guilty or the unnecessary need to apologise.

Removing our defences can be the hardest part. We've spent years building them up to protect us from the pain and trauma we've endured. We determined we would never allow ourselves to go through that again, allow that again, do that again. Because taking off the armour and dropping both defences and weapons makes us vulnerable, doesn’t it? But it also makes us open and that is the gateway to building trust. Trust in yourself. Trust in your feelings and emotions. Trust in your thoughts and opinions. Trust in your decisions. Trust becomes your new, unshakable foundation. Because here you can surrender, let go and trust that whatever arrives is for you and is perfect for you.

For me, nature was the gateway I chose to walk through. Still armoured to the hilt, carrying a sword in each hand as well as the steeliest of shields. But nature accepted me exactly as I was and encouraged me to walk through the gateway to a more truthful, loving and accepting world. Nature gave me the space to feel safe, accepted and loved unconditionally.

She helped me see myself that way too. She reflected back to me in such a way that I could start to see myself in the birds, the trees, the sky and clouds, the deer and wildflowers growing in the forest I walked in. I began my journey home to myself to inner wisdom peace and loving self-acceptance. I stopped fighting with myself, and life didn't feel like a battle anymore. I stopped fighting and entering endless arguments with people in my head. I stopped feeling so fucking angry all the time. I started feeling love, safety, trust, openness, certainty, belonging and I started to hear me. Not who I thought I should be, not who I thought others thought I should be. I heard the real me and the whispers of my strong and wise soul voice. Slowly and gracefully, the peaceful leader in me emerged and began blazing her trail.

The peaceful leader expresses her emotions as they are. She doesn't hide to feel safe anymore. She has let go of the illusions of safety in the traditional home and family structures and owns her choices. Safe in the knowing that she always has choice. She listens to her emotions, and she invites the big, scary emotions forward. She allows them a voice to be heard, and she listens. She listens deeply within. She has reverence for herself, her whole self; body; mind; heart and soul. She is fully accepting of herself. She compassionately accepts her feisty nature, her sometimes clumsy behaviour and actions, her intensity and that she likes the sound of her own voice a little too much sometimes. She accepts all these parts for they help to hold the other parts that are often easier to accept. Like her ability to hold loving space for others, her deep love for animals and nature, her passion in her work empowering others. She no longer fights. She affects change through leading herself with a peaceful, strong, loving, wise and trusting heart.

She shows others there’s another way.

She is the peaceful leader.

She is the leader the world needs.