Dealing with worry, fear and anxiety
Today I want to share some thoughts around the energy of fear. We’ve all seen the news on the TV, on our social media feeds, the radio and via several other mediums.
The power of the media to fuel the masses with a way to think and feel is phenomenal.
I stopped watching the news more than 5 years ago, initially to manage panic attacks I was experiencing. I stopped listening to the news on the radio and I stopped listening to stations or podcasts with adverts as I noticed how increasingly anxious I was feeling.
What I’ve noticed over those 5 years, apart from feeling much calmer and more grounded, is that it created head space for me. Space to think freely and recognise what my own thoughts and opinions were, rather than what I was being led to think about or feel.
Combined with mindful practices, I’ve also noticed how I can witness and observe sensationalism and fear rather than getting drawn into it.
I’m not suggesting not having any input from the news as there’s important information to know and understand. What I am advocating, is to choose when you are exposed to news information and how often.
Keeping things in perspective and staying calm can be challenging, especially when it seems like the world around you is out of control, but please know that you are always in charge of you and your own thoughts and feelings.
Here are a couple of my favourite tools to help you stay grounded and feel in control.
Write down your best case scenario for a particular outcome e.g. a happy and enjoyable Christmas Day. Forget about whether you think it’s possible or not and how on earth it could happen lol. Just keep your thoughts focused on what you would like to see, hear and feel in an ideal world. Your mind will naturally fall into thought patterns of ‘what if…’ and ‘but…’ so just acknowledge them as they come up and then move forward onto your happy outcome. Read this and even re-write this list every day for 7 days and notice how you feel.
Meditate for 10 minutes (or longer if you can). Put some nice music on (loads available for free on the Calm app) and find a quiet space. If you’re visual, like me, take yourself on a mental walk through the forest, on the beach, floating down the river or wherever feels good for you. As you breathe in, visualise white light filling up your head and as you breathe out, visualise this light travelling down your throat, shoulders, torso, stomach, hips, thighs, knees, calves, ankles and feet. Repeat this process for as long as you like.
My go to is always a walk in nature (even when it’s raining!) so if you can get outside to some green space, take a stroll and really take in what’s going on with the trees, birds, squirrels, leaves, clouds etc.
Be kind and compassionate towards yourself – speak to yourself and treat yourself as you would your best friend.
Ultimately, love is the antidote to all fear energies, so focus on that feeling. We can only feel one emotion at a time, even if it does feel like a bit of a rollercoaster, it is just one at a time.
As Kyle Gray says, “wherever love is present, fear is a stranger.”
So, get focused on your best case scenario, allow yourself to feel the love and be loved.
Wishing you a loving & magical Christmas,